Choose your partner carefully
This seems to be quite obvious, but errors nevertheless happen. Rather, the main mistake - the thought "well, he loves me, with me, he will be different." A man inclined to change partners frequently can hardly change,
so it’s not worth counting on. In addition, some men, in principle, do not consider adultery as a serious problem, and the chance that yesterday's lover hero suddenly sees something bad in betrayal is vanishingly small.
Do not think that it will not touch you
However, even if you are in a relationship with a man who seems to you to be the most faithful person in the world, do not think that this problem will never touch you. Naturally, there’s no need to suspect him "out of the blue" and imagine a picture of insidious treason in colors. But it is important to remember that none of us can be 100% sure of another person. If you feel this confidence, you can miss important signals that something is wrong in your relationship.
Be attentive to your relationship.
People change each other for different reasons, and one of them is an attempt to find those feelings that are no longer in marriage. There is no passion, no intimacy, no emotions that partners experienced at the beginning of a relationship. This, of course, is a natural process: you cannot live together for several years and feel just like in the first months of the novel. But, nevertheless, it is possible and necessary to influence the development of relations. Because if you allow them to develop on their own, the most important thing will disappear quickly enough.
Do not become jealous
The worst thing you can do is turn on total control over your partner. Unfounded jealousy and violation of personal boundaries are the very reasons that push a man to change, and do not protect your relationship from her at all.
Define the boundaries of what is permitted
In order not to fall into jealousy for no reason and not to torment either herself or a partner with her, it is worthwhile to agree in advance on what is permissible in your relationship and what is not. And it is better if these boundaries are wide enough, because otherwise the previous item will turn out - total control. Feel free to discuss everything you care about: the boundaries of flirting, the boundaries of friendship with women, rest separately from each other, and so on. And remember that borders should be symmetrical. That which is not permitted to him is not permitted to you either. And, of course, you must agree. Ultimatums can not be.
Remind your partner how much he means to you.
In fact, the fact that you are in a relationship with a person does not at all give him confidence that you really love him and want to be with him. It is important to remind the man that he is really important to you. Because the feeling of "loneliness together", the feeling of abandonment - this is also one of the reasons for treason. In this case, it may seem to you that everything is fine with you: you do not quarrel, and the man does not seem to make any complaints. In fact, it is quite difficult for him to say something for the same reason - everything seems to be all right with you. It should be good.
Sex is important
If you have been together for a long time, you perfectly understand that sex is not the most important part of a relationship, it is perhaps not even included in the top three. And that is why sometimes there is a feeling that sexual life is not important at all - well, there is some kind, and all right. Usually this leads to the fact that sex from pleasure turns into a boring duty. And this, of course, a direct path to treason.
The most important thing: what not to do
No need to try to become "perfect", because the reason for treason is not that you are not good enough. The more effort you spend on becoming a kind of "Stepford wife," the harder it will be to survive a possible betrayal. And if you feel that you can keep your partner from cheating, only by completely remaking yourself, you should think about whether you need this man at all. Because you, the real you do not seem to need him too much.
Sunday, December 2, 2018
8 ways to protect yourself from cheating
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